What Men Want in Women
Do men confuse you? Men date bitches, guys don’t talk to you, and they all seem to want sex. Guys are confusing. The male specie is nonsense from a female perspective.
There’s your first barrier that stops you from figuring out what men want in women when dating and in relationships. As long as you try to figure out men through your womanly experiences and understandings, you’ll forever remain confused.
Men differ from women. Before you give me a Nobel Prize for that remarkable statement, understand that women tend to operate from their limiting beliefs in dating and relationships. They apply their reality of chemistry and connection to a man’s reality, forgetting a male’s emotional psychology is completely different to their own.
If you cook, clean, and shop for a man in hope he likes you, you’ll be ineffective at triggering attraction and other important responses men want to feel around women. You wouldn’t feel attracted to a guy who only sat around watching football drinking beer so don’t become the female equivalent.
To figure out what men want in women, put aside your preconceived notions about dating and relationships then listen. Men will also benefit from reading this article because it helps you, if you’re a guy, better understand your desires so you can build better relationships and attract quality women.
Men Want Only Sex
Too many women believe the only thing a man wants in a woman is sex. Men want so much more. Remember what I said earlier about judging from your experiences and perspective?
A man may only desire sex from you because you focus on physical qualities. When your attractiveness depends on dressing sexy for him and sexual comments, you’re seen as a friend with benefits. You invoke a caveman response from him. This satisfies some women some of the time, but you might want more.
Many men (or should I say boys?) have yet to evolve on an emotional level. They seek only physical attraction because their emotions are blocked. They don’t know how to connect at an emotional level. Imagine putting on a pair of green glasses. It doesn’t matter what colors exist, everything is seen green. A person’s lack of emotional development blinds him from that level of awareness.
As confusing as it is to women who project their own qualities onto men, physical involvement is unequal to a relationship. A man can be physically involved with a woman and want nothing more. I believe this is what forms the belief that men only want sex. The problem with this belief is it overlooks other areas of attraction men want in women. Physical attraction is simply one part of an intimate relationship.
Nearly all men ultimately want a fulfilling relationship with one woman. A guy may not want this now or in the near future, but ultimately that is what he desires. If he says otherwise, he is usually emotionally immature or yet to meet a great woman.
The Secret is Attraction
Every man wants to feel significant, important, desired, and sexy. There’s a broad array of characteristics great men want in women that lead to one experience. The secret feeling a man wants to have around you is one of attraction.
You may think of attraction as “chemistry”. It’s the energetic charge between two people that evokes an animalistic urge. When you become what men want in women, men feel attracted to you.
Attraction can be temporary, but when you understand its principles and continually refine them (by re-reading this article and purchasing books on the subject), you make attraction long-term that leads to commitment and a satisfying relationship!
You probably know a few women who seem to effortlessly pull men towards them. They easily attract men through their looks or personality. These women understand attraction, even though they probably didn’t learn it from a source like this article.
Three Types of Attraction
Men can be attracted to you in three primary areas. We crave for all three in a partner.
As I mentioned earlier, there is physical attraction. Men are turned on more than women by visuals. It’s important to dress well, get your hair beautiful, be slightly tanned, show off your figure, and exercise.
Are you not that beautiful? You can still improve it by learning from other women. You may also have an advantage over attractive women!
Beautiful women tend to identify with their looks and become insecure. Feeling insecure about your looks is a bigger turn off than looks itself. Attractive women, in general, go through life easier than less attractive women so they have yet to develop the two other areas of attraction that lead to satisfying relationships
Guys tend to want women who are attractive, but lack personality, for the short-term. You cannot have a relationship with a body part. Looks is only one piece of the attraction puzzle.
The second type of attraction is intellectual. Intellectual attraction comes from more rational, logical means controllable through words and actions. Think of the bimbo blonde who has a peanut for her brain – that’s the opposite to an intellectually attractive woman. It’s a pain to live with someone unintelligent. An attractive man wants a woman who holds a conversation with almost anyone, talks about his interests, regularly reads books, and teaches him valuable lessons.
The third type of attraction is emotional. If a guy suddenly becomes disinterested in you, a lack of emotional attraction is the problem. A real relationship fails to develop in the absence of emotional attraction. Ways to attract men emotionally involve high status behavior, teasing, playfulness, mystery, and unpredictability.
Deficiency in an area of attraction decreases a man’s interest in you. Intensify all three forms of attraction to hypnotize any man.
Since you can go elsewhere for advice to improve your physical looks, what I’ll teach you in this article on what men want in women builds your intellectual and emotional attraction to start a great relationship and keep it that way. You are discovering the secrets men wish you knew that society will not tell you.
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Hey Tower of power, your work is so good to read since it teaches you about men and women and how to build a relationship. Big up man, excellent. I will keep in touch with you, let me say thanks a lot. God bless you
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Ezekiel Boaz
Your views are only on man and woman as sexual partners. There can be other relations as mother, sister, friend, coworker, etc. Attraction to one other need not and evidently not as per your article. I think a man’s attraction to a woman is much beyond sexual attraction when in other facets of life.
Yes and no. The article helps women find and keep a great guy. It has very little to do with being sexual. The best relationships I and many attraction experts have seen delay sex.
Did you read the article B.? Right from the start I said physical attraction is only one part so we’re on the same page there – though sexual attraction is different to physical attraction.
as far as i am concerned – david d’angelo is so full of s*** that he should really run for obama’s job. if men and women would just cut the shit and get right down to brass tacks and the points – and STOP with the body language – and STOP with saying one thing when he / she means the complete opposite (i.e. – his / her mouth says ” yea – ill go out on a date with you” and his / her brain is really thinking ”i think ill stand him up instead and just not tell him or call him”). if BOTH sexes would just cut the s*** and get right down to the point and tell what they are REALLY THINKING – then dating would be so much easier and the world would be a much better place.
I generally agree with you Richard. Believe it or not, David teaches the same thing now. Get his Man Transformation program. It’s all about authenticity. He is evolving beyond techniques and tricks.
To say someone should stop with the body language and stop saying one thing and doing another is dangerous advice. Try cutting off your body language now. You cannot do it. Body language is part of an inevitable communication process. The question becomes, is your body language attractive?
As for the mixed messages, here’s a thought to remember: uncertainty, mystery, and some games (I said SOME) is part of an exciting relationship process. To say it’s deceptive or immature usually signals past pain because you or someone you know has been hurt by an unhealthy mixed message.
I agree the example you used is deceptive, but it many cases it’s effective. Guys or girls then think endlessly about the person. “Does he like me or not?” I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do, but good mixed messages like playfully saying, “You’re a pain to be around with” when you smile in delight is good.
I’d be more worried about a woman who thinks she can skip playful banter and be unpredictable because she thinks it’s a stupid game. This is the woman I would not feel great around, which is what it comes down to. Individuals may disagree. Men want to feel great around a woman – how this happens depends on the man and woman.
it is just that MY type of woman is so very up front and no nonsense and makes her intentions known beforehand LOUD AND CLEAR so there is NO misunderstanting. im NOT a ”nice” guy – im A kind guy with i think just enough ”bad boy” in me to hold my own. but my emotional and sexual desires and needs at times overpower the ”bad boy” part in me that i just break down crying in frustration. a woman would be able to attract me and KEEP me if she would just do what i am suggesting right from the get go.
another thing i wish men / women would do is to completely cut out the mind games – because my mind got f*** up from an ex who did that s*** to me. it f***** me up so bad that i have issues when it comes to trusting women as whole. if they would also cut out the mind games as well as do what i suggested it would make it MUCH EASIER for me to trust women and for me to fall in love with them(as a kind guy – NOT as a clingy nice guy or as bad boy), and it would make it MUCH EASIER for them to fall in love with me and get into my pants.
also – for both sexes to do TOTAL TRUTH – NO LYING – NO DECEPTION – would also make it easier for dating, falling in love, and getting into each others pants
there are things i have issues with when it comes to women -
1) my beef with women in general is they place way too much importance on the size of the d!ck and not enough on the person the d*** is attached to. what i am saying is – d*** size does NOT matter – the person who it is attached to matters more than the size of the d***. i personally would NOT like to be with a with a woman who ”loves” me just for my d*** alone – i would like her to love ALL of me – ALL OF ME
2) i have heard of situations of when western women mock, tease, and make fun of men just because the size of their d*** does not measure up their likings. that is just plain mean and cruel and is the same thing as cutting the mans balls off. i give part of the blame to the media and pop culture that blasts through ”bigger is better” and if that does not demoralize and humiliate men, and cause problems with their self confidence/self esteem, i do not know what does. and i give part of the blame to women themselves, because IF they were in a bad relationship with a male with a too big(or too small d*** – which ever the case may be) and they carry it on the next boyfriend and then take it out on him if she does not get off, and for listening to their girlfriends when they say ‘’size matters” which can screw up a good thing if she listens to her girlfriends. the new man in her life did not do a thing to deserve the abuse. sex + lovemaking should be about the mutual sharing of love and emotions – and not if he has a big d*** or not – OR – if she shaves down there or not. that is just superficial and on the surface and the person inside is more important than the surface details.
3) women (and most men – there are exceptions though) – only care about how much money the partner has in the bank, his/her possessions, and the size of his d***. if they would just skip right past the materialistic things and be more interested in the person inside – the relationship would have more meaning and more love in it. to be mainly interested in the materialistic things is just plain shallow and superficial.
oh – by the way – i have a couple neuro-psychological conditions right in my brain that CANNOT be fixed – and to me it also seems like women can SMELL the wonky wiring in my brain and avoid me like plague because of it. it also seems like i have bad genes to pass on and they think/feel any kids we may have will be defective too. defective kids need care and loving from both parents too. by the way 90% of the unborn babies that got diagnosed with downs syndrome get aborted. that is NOT right. they deserve to live and get loved too. when the mother aborts the special needs baby – that just says she will ONLY love the baby IF it is perfect with NO defects.
I loved this article! great job!
Richard, in your other comment you said you have Asperger Syndrome. That changes a lot of my understanding with what you said! While I cannot understand what you go through, my knowledge about the syndrome is you struggle in situations involving emotions because hidden messages are communicated through that channel. Your brain means you cannot easily understand these messages like most people.
I could tell you were hurt by an ex. It really sucks to go through that stuff. You have a lot of resentment and anger against women. Understand that what she did to you is DIFFERENT to mixed messages and attractive games. Women, like men, sometimes struggle to break up with someone so they don’t follow up on their promises. They lie to avoid the pain of telling the truth.
Total truth is important. For you, it sounds like a high value. However, are you ready for some tough love? You cannot expect both sexes to not lie. You cannot expect women to cut out mind games. Dating may become easier, but I suggest you stop blaming the opposite sex. This is BIG for you. Take responsibility for your life. Read the start of the article, it speaks directly to you (except as a male).
It’s your responsibility as an authentic person to set boundaries in your life. If a woman blatantly deceives, then call her out on it and say what you expect. (My request relating to this for you is to please stop swearing in your comments because this is a public place for learning.) From my experience, most women will be authentic if they have a man that is authentic.
Yes, some women like men will lie. Yes, some women like men are superficial. You don’t want these women so it DOESN’T matter. Life isn’t fair, but it’s rewarding.
Any man or woman that has a “beef” with the opposite sex cries out emotional baggage. You will forever struggle to understand and connect with someone – even if you love them – because your “beef”, which is a limiting belief, is guaranteed to prove itself true in some way or another. The moment you recognize a situation that slightly validates your belief, you’ll instantly resort to your generalizations and anger towards women.
im sorry for the foul language. ill tell you how she hurt me. my ex and i were both geeks. we known each other for a better part of 2.75-3 years. i was physically, emotionally and very sexually attracted to her not for her body – but for her BRAIN. see, she and i can both repair, upgrade, tear down and build pcs. but she had a skill i DO NOT have – she is able to make www sites. we loved each other very much. then she kept on making www creation demands of me for a skill i do not have, and i was trying as best as i could from books and referencing to www sites. no matter what i did to help was not good enough and she griped at me for it. then the mind games started and i did not realize they were mind games. then in april of this year, she said ”you never really loved me, you never really wanted to be with me, i wish you never were even born” then she kicked me to the curb. i still cry to this day from the head games she played on me.
and with my brain being not able to understand the ”messages” – that is why it would be so much easier for an NT(Neurological Typical) woman to just cut the manure and get right down to the point when it comes to dating. plus, when it comes to dating, it is EASIER for me to date a female aspie (person with aspergers syndrome) or a female autie (person with autism). add epilepsy to the mix, and that would be ideal for me because she would be in the same shoes i am in and then she can relate to me and my neurological issues.
another thing about my ex – i kept on reminding her that i also have epilepsy(seizure condition) and she kept on ”forgetting” – and if she keeps on forgetting then how can i count on her to get help when i REALLY NEED IT – I CANNOT!!!!!
i have forgiven my ex for what she did – but the scars are still there.
is what i am looking for in a woman impossible?
Hey Richard: I don’t think what you ask in a woman is impossible to find,because there’s so many people, sooo different that I’m sure there are all imaginable kinds of people in this world (unless you really NEED the woman to be aspie/epileptic). BUT it will be very hard to find, that kind of honesty is not too important for people these days. I don’t think the perfect woman has to necessarily be “in your shoes”, remember opposites sometimes complement each other, people don’t have to have the same interests/personality/qualities. The important thing is finding a woman who loves you and respects you for who you are. But you won’t love her and respect her for who she is if you expect her to be like you. It’s also important not to confuse mind games with innocent flirting, where you hide certain things or use some “irony” to show you actually care or like the person. A woman knowing your situation shouldn’t do this though,but it’s your responsibility to explain your feelings to the woman and your past experiences. Woman don’t find this unattractive as men do.
When it comes to the truth, I think exactly like you….I don’t mind some humor, irony, mystery…but if I say “serious now, tell me the truth” I like, well the truth, lies have no place in a relationship. I’d rather listen to an awful truth…it will hurt, but never as much as a lie.