There’s likely a long-term relationship in your life you’re better off ending right now. It could be your marriage, but more likely a partner you’ve been seeing or a toxic friend.
But how do you know when you should end a long-term relationship? When you know it’s best to finish it, what can you do to cut off a long-term relationship without having the person burn your house down? This article answers these questions. … Click to continue reading →
Follow your heart, be true to yourself, and everything will work out. And oh, ride your unicorn over the rainbow with butterflies and fairies floating through your hair.
The most common tip you hear to be better with women and men is “just be yourself”. Jump in a forum, blog, or conversation where people discuss the secrets of making friends or attracting the opposite sex and you’ll hear the unanimous piece of advice echoed like ancient wisdom. I’ve received many emails and comments on articles like What Women Want in Men saying, “Forget everything. Just be yourself.” I manage to withhold from clicking reply and sending an angry response.
If being yourself is sound advice, it’s as useless as being told to “be confident”. How do you just be confident? You can’t just do it. Unless the word triggers what you need to do like “express your feelings” or “stand up straight”, being yourself is not helpful advice.
It’s time you understood this cliché and what you can do to be the best full you. … Click to continue reading →
It’s a paradox that what got you reading this article is maintaining your problem. The word “cure” is what creates your social anxiety disorder. I cringe at using the word in the title of this article, but it displays a breakthrough point modern therapists have discovered: attempts to remove anxiety cause it to persist.
You’ve suffered from social anxiety disorder and tried to treat it for years. The problem and infatuation with removing anxiety go hand-in-hand. What you resist persists sometimes making problem-solving ineffective.
From a young age we’re tricked to believe in emotional regulation. We believe adults are mature, stable, and happy because of emotional control. “Stop crying and being a baby.” “Don’t be angry.” And of course my dreaded, “Don’t be a scaredy cat.” Emotional regulation has lead to your search here today as you try discover the cure of your social anxiety.
What are the affects of battling your anxiety? What’s the secret to better socialize and start living a meaningful life? … Click to continue reading →
Sick of being manipulated by an untrustworthy partner, a child who disobeys your every request, and coworkers that undermine your success? Most people plain out suck and do everything they can to hurt you.
I’m going to teach you what to say and do to win a fight. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you with this street-wise 15-tip guide to shield yourself from verbal brutality: … Click to continue reading →
You’re already an impressive person. By definition, you “impress” yourself into the memory of anyone you meet. But in this article I’ll show you how to make a good first impression on a guy, girl, parent – whoever. The imprint you’ll learn to leave on people will have them fossilize the memory.
Whether you’re the girl at the bar yelling to her friends “Oh my I have to pee SO BAD!” or the guy whose voice cracks over his first words, it’s hard to erase a first impression from someone’s brain. As said in my Big Talk course, however, where there’s a whole chapter on making a great first impression, “A first impression isn’t a last impression; it’s an influential impression.”
A good impression at first sight is what I call “the lazy man’s way to make people like you”. Princeton University research shows our snap judgments remain consistent over time. If someone judges you as “attractive”, “friendly”, and “open” within 100 milliseconds, they’re likely to think you’re all that by the end of the conversation. The study did find one thing changes as the conversation continues: a person’s confidence in the accuracy of their first impression.
Call it bias or unfairness. I call it human psychology. Work with it if you want to be seen as awesome. Here are 40 tips that will help you make a great first impression. … Click to continue reading →
Charm is the attractiveness of an object or person that interests, pleases, and satisfies. When you’re charming to men and women, you can be charismatic and attractive, but also attentive and empathetic. Charm is good people skills.
Some of us possess more charm than others, while an unfortunate few remain in the proverbial dust cloud of those who courted their way ahead. In medieval times (and still to this day) magic had charm because of its mysteries and unknown that left outsiders dumbfounded. If you charm men and women, they’ll wonder what magic you wield to make people respect and like you.
It’s obvious that charming people get more affection from the opposite sex, get respected by strangers, and get the raise they want at work. Charming people have an easier, more enjoyable life.
The good news is if you have as much charm as a backyard rock, you too can transform into a captivating diamond. If you feel you’ll never outshine the one always topping you with a cooler line, relax then follow some of the best tips below to help you charm any man or woman. … Click to continue reading →
I spend maybe 30 minutes a day reading other people’s blogs and websites. Not just in social skills, but other topics like behavior, business, and being a bad ass. I then recommend these on Twitter and Facebook.
Over the past year I’ve collected some great resources on social skills I’d like to share with you now. Some are from friends of mine, myself, and just others who’ve given good insight into a topic.
From improving your social skills, overcoming anxiety, and starting a conversation, all the way to ongoing conversation, being charismatic, and making people laugh, here are some great resources I recommend you read even if they take you a while to get through … Click to continue reading →
Below are 101 types of conversation starters you can use on your first date, at a party, in business, with guys or girls, or on family and friends.
The 101 great conversation openers are simple, yet don’t be fooled. They’re effective. The most important point to remember when using any conversation starter is they aim to start the conversation. “Ice-breakers” break the ice; they don’t heat up the planet and make mother nature flourish.
Conversational openers are not intended to make people laugh or get people to like you. Guys, you can make a woman think you’re a primal beast to be captured in the later stages of a conversation. Attempting to impress someone with your first words makes you nervous, which discourages you from starting a conversation. It also makes you look like a try hard in need of approval. … Click to continue reading →
Self-help as an industry is full of lies, myths, and dangers. It’s a community of experts and everyday consumers that have techniques and ways of living to heal anxiety, treat depression, and generally improve the quality of life.
Self-help is the act of improving yourself without reliance on others. It extends beyond motivation books and popular psychology to include other ways humans communicate. There’s forums, everyday conversations, seminars, webinars, and books.
The term “self-help junkie” was coined to describe someone who attends seminars and buys many books, DVDs, and CDs on the subject. Junkies fuel the $8 billion dollar industry in America alone.
Self-help addicts are sometimes like heroin addicts jumping between experts wanting their next fix. The educational sources become a source of comfort and security to avoid what really is going on as they intellectualize lessons and never build the learning only possible from action. This article reveals the harsh reality about this dangerous industry that some gurus wish you didn’t know. … Click to continue reading →
Another email just arrived in my inbox. This person wanted me to hire him because he had just been fired, needed to feed his family, and was frustrated with the economic conditions.
I shook my head as I sat on my computer at home, sipping a coffee. I felt sorry for him, but he didn’t need work – he needed a radical shift in reality with a series of self-probing questions, tips, skills, and advice to nail his desired job.
Whether you’re going for a retail, nursing, accounting, teacher, or government interview full-time or part-time over the phone, online, or in person, the following advice will help you ace any interview to get the job of your dreams. … Click to continue reading →
Update: What Christmas present did you get for yourself? You can tell me ;-) None for me this year. 2011-12-29 ⇒ Follow me on Twitter.