Comments on: Why Smart People Have Poor Communication Skills – and What to Do About It

By: Charlie E

Charlie E — Thu, 24 Jan 2019 19:06:54 +0000

The author of this article has it all backward. Smart people are highly intellect even average people are good communicators and they can speak just as good with clarity in their pronunciations. When I say average and above average I’m referring to post-secondary educated people with their doctoral degrees, Bachelor’s degree, masters degree etc. I find that people with just a high school diploma do in fact have poor communications skills. Most of society today are people with Post Secondary Education are very well spoken. They are fluent when speaking advanced English whereas those with only a high school diploma will continue to speak in layman’s terminology.

By: Charlie Evans

Charlie Evans — Sun, 04 Mar 2018 06:51:35 +0000

I have to disagree with this article.Most of the smart people i know are very talkative and a great communicators. I myself am not a great communicator. I have friends who invite me to coffee shops where i meet different people ever time. I met this one guy who looked like a homeless guy but very knowledgeable. He knew everything about the Jews and their cultures. He talks a lot about the Masons and the Illuminati Politics and Religion. He mentioned that before he found the true religion that was right for him he had to study the beliefs and their Doctrines before finding the right one for him. He uses long words i have never heard of. He asked me a question on Christianity where he used a word i never heard of before. I was confused with his question because of the chose of words he was using. Later i googled the words and they were popular words that are used everyday why he didn’t use those words i will never know.. Any how he asked me later that night when we are alone if my grades were bad in school. Now i’m 50 years of age. I have worked as a Assistant Machinist, Chemical Batcher, Did Forklift and worked for fantastic paying companies. I was assigned a member of the safety counsel at one of my jobs. I have a nice apartment and i own many nice things i have worked hard for. He on the other hand is living on Toronto housing and has no assets to show forth but still his question made me feel like i was stupid. Maybe in that aspect i am stupid. Perhaps i should be spending more time learning alternative words to our customary words to better my vocabulary. But then i had a sense of relief when thinking about my family who have been very successful in their lives. My sister and brother are both Auto mechanics. My sister works as a sales personnel at a Car Dealership. My Brother owns his own Auto Mechanics shop. My Dad owned his own Trucking company through out the 1970s and 80’s until he went independent and worked as a independent Broker. We never spoke fancy with 20 letter words when ever we were around each other. Same applies to my relatives. We spoke easy enough so each other can understand. My dad owns a 400 thousand dollar home. New car and goes on several trips a year with his Golfing friends. He never spoke like a College professor when i was around. Our conversations were simple. I find these days a lot of people are using alternative words for the every day words we have been accustomed to using and then when i google the word later he means a word that is being used every day by mostly everyone. I question myself whether or not i’m stupid or just ignorant. My focus on life is not learning alternative words to make us sound smarter. My focus on life is to always make certain that i can support myself and live a some what fruitful life and not end up like my so called unemployed friend who is quick to judge me.

By: Tezza

Tezza — Fri, 29 Dec 2017 02:29:14 +0000

‘Partial likeness.’

By: June

June — Fri, 03 Nov 2017 12:39:00 +0000

Thank you, always have had trouble with peoples perceptions of me, even at my senior 25 re-union my friend at school commented I had the smarts but absolutely no people skills, after I end a job trying to keep in contact with fellow colleagues is hard work and interviews and trying not to “piss in my own pocket” seems impossible and sounds egotistical, last year at 49 was diagnosed on the bottom of the aspergers group (old term). But it explained my whole life and my Mum is now seeing similarities.

By: Dave Whitfield

Dave Whitfield — Tue, 19 Sep 2017 14:15:54 +0000

To put it plainly, highly intelligent people come across as abstract. I often find myself skipping what is for average intelligence folks critical points in a conversation because I am not only playing out the conversation in my head, but also because many of the details are already known to me and thus I assume these details are self evident.
Skipping multiple details at a time due to my view on their redundancy just doesn’t make for a enriching and engrossing conversation.

By: Al

Al — Fri, 14 Apr 2017 05:43:25 +0000

What’s the point of speaking if you aren’t allowed to speak your own language?

By: Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"

Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power" — Sat, 10 Dec 2016 06:17:28 +0000

In reply to Joshua.

Hi Josh,

In your comment you wrote a lot about correcting mistakes. Intellectual intelligence does not equate with one’s ability to lead or direct another through such means. It is a “smart flaw” to believe that another should be able to see the mistake that I see in them. To facilitate growth in someone is predominately emotional intelligence incorporating things like empathy, encouragement, and non-judgemental questioning.

Christ taught us the most important trait to cultivate is love. As you say, kindness and patience is important. Read https://www.towerofpower.com.au/4-reasons-advice-and-other-solutions-kill-relationships

Five Love Languages is a good book I recommend for anyone to better communicate and receive love.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Fri, 09 Dec 2016 08:27:40 +0000

I do find your writings and insight extremely interesting and it definitely fits in certain aspects. But it is in a sense allowing those with less selfish control and selfish tendencies to perpetuate their owns lies and enabling them to not learn from their mistakes and they will pass those habits on to their children and so on and so forth until the eventual degradation of their genetics and mental capacity effectively preventing the further growth of human evolution. Though with kindness and patience there is a proactive way to teach humans as a whole to better communicate. A good start is to recognize that we as a species are as vast and as different as there are grains of sand and that one size doesn’t fit all and that just because someone is different doesn’t mean you should belittle them like ADHD. Long referred to as a learning disability which it is not, is a stigma that is founded on lack of intelligence. ADHD people are extremely intelligent but they are a product of their environment. To truly be capable of communicating you need to understand that the difference in cognition, perception, and context plays an essential role in how someone will react. Also understand the difference between bad luck and bad decisions. Everyone has to do their part.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Fri, 09 Dec 2016 07:57:22 +0000

His Joshua I can relate to most of your article but do find it kind of one sided. I have an IQ of around 180 and struggle with being able to communicate with others simply because i generally tend to get bored with the excessive drama and pity party that most people tend to want to communicate. Humans beings are flawed on so many levels it’s not even funny. The problem with being overly intelligent is that the general population is selfish and self centered to a point that they can’t understand the basic math involved in every day choices. Since the beginning of human existence humans have had trouble with impulse control and yes while the person who’s car was stolen can say it’s rude to tell them they shouldn’t have left the keys in the car, in reality if they are mature enough to own the car then they should know not to underestimate the probability of stupidity. If we look back at history we can see the continuing mistakes of doing the same things over and overall expecting different results like the earth is flat or the universe revolves around the earth. The general population has long had a history for persecuting what they don’t understand on a basis for what the think they know and they can’t correlate between thinking and knowing. Thinking lacks facts it’s essentially a guess knowing is proven fact. Emotions will lead you astray and the fact is that the general population doesn’t not recognize when an intellectual individual is trying to be sincere most don’t care due to lack of foresight and selfishness. A very good read is the love date and the five languages of love. The majority problem is that humans life is short and fleeting and most cannot see the impact of there actions long term. Bottom line is that you are on a bright blue ball spinning through a vast space that is running out of resources and rooms for all who inhabit it and rather than getting along and moving forward and learning from one another as a species humans bicker over petty differences because they don’t realize how small they truly are and that we are more than likely not the pennicale of existence. Our tiny solar system is one of 400 million in the milky way galaxy and there are 400 billion galaxies in the known universe. Extremely intelligent people see and understand this and our frustration comes from cleaning up everyone else’s mess constantly. And true enough your perception is your reality but that’s doesn’t mean that it’s real it just appears to be real to you. Most often the smart person isn’t ruled by logical and rational thought it’s usually that they want to save and help everyone and everything within there means. Humans as a whole fail to communicate because they can’t work together and lack humility. The most catastrophic events in history “true history” where carried out by the general population and it was generally nothing less than an attempt at genocide based of a selfish emotion or thought. And that my friend is a fact. Thanks Joshua. PS. 95 out of 100 people will knowingly repeat the same mistakes because they refuse to learn from them.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 05 Sep 2015 15:20:09 +0000

Dear Joshua,

Thank you for sharing your insight. It was an interesting article to read, I def have learnt more about why intelligent people tend to have poor communication skills.
I’d love to read more articles of yours on a similar topic.

Best regards,
Rachel