Comments on: The Greatest 15 Myths of Communication

By: 40 Ways to Make a Great First Impression - Chase Technology Consultants

40 Ways to Make a Great First Impression - Chase Technology Consultants — Wed, 24 Feb 2016 15:53:24 +0000

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By: The Complete Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Process

The Complete Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Process — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 03:27:24 +0000

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By: Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"

Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power" — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 13:05:28 +0000

In reply to ashu. Ashu, you mean there's no light in space? :grin: I've corrected it! Air is a medium for sound to travel...

By: ashu

ashu — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 11:34:54 +0000

dude i respect u as an overall personality, communication guru etc… but when it comes to physics wtf are u? light doesnot need air as a medium to travel… lol..

By: 40 Ways to Make a Good First Impression

40 Ways to Make a Good First Impression — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 06:52:36 +0000

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Review of The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:31:24 +0000

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By: 12 Neuro-Linguistic Programming Presuppositions

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By: Jason

Jason — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 10:31:38 +0000

Joshua,

I commend you for presenting a good case but, if you would allow me to be direct, you are flat out wrong with myth# 14. Specifically it’s unstated fundamental premise that some lying is good for communication. It may be good for a temporary ego boost, which Leil says, but effective communication is not about making someone happy (and more importantly happy with you) for the moment at that person’s expense. That IS manipulation.

Moreover, a lie’s temporary, ego-boosting effects, to a healthy introspective person, never outweigh its long term negative effects. I’ve heard of an unwritten rule of a negative’s “7:1” influence ratio and I believe it is true. A negative comment or event has seven times the far-reaching effects and influence of a positive comment or event. Hence negativity should be dealt with carefully.

A lie can only serve to compound this effect. If the lie is discovered the momentary gain from hearing what one wants to hear will be diminished (twofold from that 7:1 ratio) by realizing that one was both lied to and had done something wrong, such as giving a bad speech, at the same time… Try gaining that persons trust or being in his sphere of influence after that.

To solve this issue of a supposed need for “white lies” I always revert to what I like to call “constructive negative-criticism.” And that simply is to stress someone’s truthful positives but at the same time express what is or what was done wrong in a constructive manner; meaning make positive suggestions for next time or pointing out what needs improvement in a positive manner. This way someone can get a true representation of their areas needing improvement and it still lets the advice-receiver build a trusting relationship with the advice-giver in knowing that he or she always has good intentions at heart.

I would never want a speech professor to ever lie to me about a speech to boost my ego, but rather stress what I did correctly and how to improve next time.

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I did see a lot of great and well written advice in the rest of the article though. And believe you me, I’m not lying .