I also want to add allowing the child to do what it pleases is only harmful when they are doing things that could be bad for them or others. You would want to find out why they feel compelled or attracted to thinks like drug or underage drinking.

You wouldn’t want to stop a child from doing what it pleases if what pleased it was doing well in school and eating healthy.

Depending on the child’s personality and temperment you would want to find out why they are drawn to that?

Do they have a learning disability? Are they experiencing stress? Is what they want not avaliable from you so they are settling for these other behaviors? Are there self esteem issues that you have failed to discover and address?

You would want to figure out why they would chose drugs and alcohol over doing well in school and eating healthy?

There personality may feel challenged with making bonds and connections. They may feel like they can’t ask for what they want or need from you. They gave up on what they wanted because you didn’t allow the freedom to the child to express itself as who it was. What they wanted wasn’t possible from you so they took another direction.

If you look at kids who grow up in low income neighborhoods, they don’t have the same possibilities as children who do. They may want to do something creative or not know why they have issues focusing or paying attention in school, but because what they want isn’t a available, they have no choice but to choose another path. Setting high limits and or being authoritative won’t change the real issue. Attempting o define who the child should be won’t either. They will just hide it from you.

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