also, here you mentioned those points
“No partner, ever
No fun at social events
No promotions at work from weak behavior
Abuse from strangers for awkwardness
The frustration from not voicing needs
A disbelief great goals can be achieved”

yet what can one do ,if you’re gonna accept then you will get abuse from strangers for being awkward so do u mean accept that as well? cuz how wud it change , you are not changing the scenario, you’re throwing yourself in deep waters when u cant swim. like one time when i was challenging myself i went grocery shopping and the lady was rude to me ,so I got a severe anxiety attack and cudnt really go shopping again for a couple of weeks and my b.f did the shopping. so acceptance means that u’ll have 2 live with the consequences which are horrible. I have BPD as well and i can accept BPD but social anxiety not really easy.

“A sane person to an insane society must appear insane.” ― Kurt Vonnegut

Of course we do have to research and understand as best we can the nature of the monstrous deceptions perpetrated on humanity.

Then you don’t feel nearly so bad as it turns out you had it right all along!

I am currently in year 12; all of my life i had been the outgoing, confident one, who didn’t give a rat about what others thought! But suddenly something changed, or I pushed myself to believe ‘something changed’. I couldn’t talk to people, not even my mates, always ‘overthinking’, telling myself that i need to get better to talk to this girl, ‘it’ll all be better soon’ i said. I have now come to realise; telling myself that i am ‘overthinking everything’ and telling others that, is the worst thing I can possibly do. See, whenever i’m in a social situation, my conscious will always be saying ‘stop overthinking’, thus, leading myself into thinking I am. Always on a constant battle with myself, about to drive myself crazy, thinking about suicide etc. and all of that. Now I have realised, trying to ‘battle’ this ‘social anxiety’, will only continue my pain. I don’t have a ‘problem’ I have perceived myself and others to think that I have. Maybe because it’s easier? I don’t know. All I know is that it’s not working, fighting ‘this’ is not working. It is okay to be anxious, nervous, or feel any feeling you want to feel! Fighting this is not natural, this is why I could relate to your article so much. But accepting these feelings is what I need to do, instead of constantly fearing, when they will come back by trying to prevent them. I want to live a happy life, not a life full of fear; so this is a big step for me, to stop fearing these emotions and push on; everyone has a brain, everyone thinks not just me.

I am going to read this article alot, try to understand it and push on, I thought, i needed to ‘overcome’ this, but the truth is i need to learn to accept it and not make it a part of me, and i look very forward to this, because I am already happy, i just don’t want to see it. 🙂

Thank you. 🙂