Comments on: Just Be Yourself – Why It’s Bad Advice: Being Yourself is the Problem

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By: Andrew

Andrew — Mon, 21 May 2012 04:39:04 +0000

Good to see that someone else realizes that being yourself doesn’t always cut it. I’m spreading this around to everyone I know and also learned something from this as well. I would like to say thank you for writing this piece of information because it is valuable to every human being.

By: chicka_bom

chicka_bom — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:03:12 +0000

Very nice articles, which all of your other articles are as well!
But isn’t it possible, that what someone actually means by saying “be yourself”, is that they actually mean that you should “be the real, authentic you, who lives your life to the fullest”?
At least that’s what I consider as the true meaning of “be yourself”.

Because if you truly are your authentic “you”, then you’re genuinely confident in yourself which makes you want to live your life to the fullest, which makes you step out of the comfort-zone all the time, because nothing’s stopping you from doing it, because you’re confident in that “yourself” is good enough just as you actually are as a person.

By: Ace

Ace — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 23:03:24 +0000

ToP, great article! I have felt the same way have for a long time – long before I came across this article. I’ve always thought “just be yourself” is useless (maybe even detrimental) advice. If someone is having trouble making friends or attracting the opposite sex, or whatever, then WHY in the world would they want to follow the advice of “just be yourself” when it clearly isn’t working for them?? Obviously just being themselves will continue keeping that person stuck where he/she is at.

I guess sometimes people just do not think of what they are saying, when they give such advice…

By: Robert

Robert — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 09:33:45 +0000

I battle this everyday! I usually stay in my fearful state, I fight to step out of my comfort zone. Good post, Thanks for this!

By: virgeodle

virgeodle — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 19:55:32 +0000

thank you josh.May the Creator of all things bless you.this is great advice.

By: Anne

Anne — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 08:23:36 +0000

Joshua you are the best. Never will I ever tell someone to be themselves again. You are unique thanks.

By: Comfort

Comfort — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 16:13:38 +0000

Thanks Joshua its an eye opening.