Comments on: Why People Remain Quiet, Shy, and Non-Assertive: The Benefits of Passive Behavior and Communication

By: rajiv

rajiv — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 16:53:17 +0000

Thanks a lot for bringing attention this way.
I have been through this condition from last 12 yrs but nvr consider to notice it. Your article helped.

Thanks again buddy

By: David William Peace

David William Peace — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 13:00:45 +0000

You hit on a key note near the beginning, which is the aim to keep from blame. I had a hard time with receiving blame and did not want further attention from this. There were several reasons for this, but the main thing was getting humiliated for making mistakes when I was a kid. It was sort of a bastard step-child kind of thing. When a person becomes aware of this, it is easier to overcome and get on with life and stop the cycle of passivity. I could care less about being blamed for whatever now.

By: Antoine

Antoine — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 17:42:37 +0000

I need your info ASAP… my passive aggressive behavior has cost me my job, my wife, my friends, and I have to make a change immediately…

By: Antoine

Antoine — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 16:33:34 +0000

Your article describes a lot of my life. This behavior has harmed myself, my relationships (I am currently seperated from my wife), and I want to change immediately.

By: Review of The Game by Neil Strauss

Review of The Game by Neil Strauss — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 09:28:32 +0000

[...] from geek to woman-magnet. You follow his exciting tales as he starts out as not confident, shy, passive, and an introverted writer for The New York Times who within two years becomes one of the [...]

By: JoyJOy

JoyJOy — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 14:21:03 +0000

i always thought my passive nature is really not helpfull. but thanx to u! actually i was trying to find what kind of person i am! cause i always have really hard time telling me who i am. i always related dat to “identity cricis” (i heard about it in class!) lol n so much more!
well anyway the thing is ur article helps! thnx

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By: S J

S J — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 01:54:10 +0000

Yo! what up dudes.I just got finished with this article and found it very interesting. One thing that stood out to me the most was how passiveness is looked upon as a weak form of personality and needs to be changed by going to classes or reading an inspiring book. Really? I have been around these people my whole life. the world is based on passive behaviors, reacting to someone who cuts you off and not finishing off your thought of stepping out of the car and beating them senceless. Or instead of telling your inlaws they smell like cabbage you put on a fake smile, or just don’t show up. Letting the president of the U.S. take control of the states and ruin everything without an impeachment or a simple hanging. people are weak and won’t move foward as a whole.
leaning on some a-hole to tell them that they are a weak version of whats healthy and that they can help them kinda defeats the purpose, a kind of oxi moron……
My sister I love very much sent me to this site because of her boyfriend of many years is extremly passive. I can see where she could sence a level of comfort and understanding from this article, but I truly feel that we could really benefit from just giving these passive people a swift kick in the balls and leave them to find out that WE as a whole can work around them without missing a beat. no reason to pitty them, just let them live in there own wollow untill they figure out that there 4th grade mentality in life doesn’t work anymore.
I know it sounds harsh but really, my sister too is passive, her boyfriend…. MY best friend through school.
I just don’t take either of their crap, when the’re passive I just look at the situation and say “well, you won’t make a desision so I will, and you have to live with it” they can feel crappy on ther own!

By: How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty » ToP

How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty » ToP — Wed, 20 May 2009 08:20:54 +0000

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Sat, 24 Jan 2009 03:36:45 +0000

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