Being cocky does not mean being mean. A woman cares what her man thinks so if you try to deflate her self esteem, you will be emotionally abusing her. Make sure she knows you think she is beautiful first and foremost and that you support and celebrate her. She will do the same for you.

Alpha qualities are great but when you are so stoic and distant that you act like she doesn’t even exist you are creating distance not intimacy. It’s all about balance.

We want a guy who knows how to fix things and to know how to be sensitive to our feelings but not overwhelm us with your neediness. We want to know you want us in your life.

Cocky no, dry sarcasm maybe but mean never. remember that. Great relationships are about supporting and celebrating each other too.

I found this article and was ready to try out these ideas. In addition to these techniques, I decided to take it a step further by believing that I will find someone. I remained as positive as I could, prayed, and always kept a mental image of the mate I wanted. That mental image consisted of looks, personality, and family. I also set a date a three months into the future of when I wanted this person to arrive in my life. I had complete confidence that this person was going to arrive.

I actually met someone a month later! I believe one of the techniques that worked best was to be cocky in a funny way. Use light hearted jokes… but always say a “just kidding after with a laugh”. Don’t be a jerk. If you have tried this and time is going by and still no one, remind yourself of these concepts. I tend to forget and go back to my old nice guys, ways all the time. I jump back to this article to keep me staying confident. Thanks for this article.

Give me a break. We have instinctive imprints in us which predate our intellect. We have emotions which we have no idea what they are, we just feel them. We fall all over the place trying to explain who we are, where we came from or whether our existence has meaning. We are a result of billions of years of evolution. We carry that history with in us, a history we can’t read out loud but one we feel.

Attraction is primal, its basic and is earthshaking. When a silver-back returns from a fight all the females kneel or lower themselves, some groom him, basically submit to him, why, because they feel an earth shattering desire to be around him and submit to his needs. Why do they feel this way, who knows.

When a playful, bold and confident bad boy invades a girl’s personal space and looks her straight into her eyes, she feels a spine shattering adrenaline rush that takes her breath away. Why is that, who the hell knows.

One thing I know why we exits is to multiply. That is it.

Men create friendships, gangs, colonies and nations and herd women in it. Within these we create laws and social norms that makes sure breeding is insured.

There is nothing men don’t do to breed. The struggle between alpha and beta males resulted in religions, in political and economic classes. Everything that is there in human societies today is a result of the effort to breed.

Unfortunately we are lost in all of these. We are too taken by the technicalities and lost site of our purpose. We teach our children to be good in school while telling them to act on their sexuality is a BIG NO NO. Most of us are disgusted with the idea of sex and sexuality we can’t even talk to our children about it, we are too EMBARRASSED. I encourage anyone with nerves to go watch the “bonobo chimps” in the Congo. They are the real us without all this intellectual baggage we carry.