The Benefits of Communication Skills
What if I told you there was a secret to you being happy, attractive, popular, successful, understanding, in control, loving, and satisfied? What if you could get these benefits – plus more – by learning a single skill? It sounds almost too good to be true.
The skill that gives you these benefits is effective communication. Communication has too many benefits to list because the skill enhances many areas of one’s life. Any interaction with people or lack of it can improve with communication.
Rudyard Kipling said, “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” Kipling’s quote fails to fully describe communication because it is far more than words – it also incorporates nonverbal channels of communication. Imagine the powerful benefits of communication now.
Here are a list of communication benefits that tell you the what, why, and how this amazing skill will change your life:
Communication increases your happiness. You have probably heard money cannot buy happiness. You become happy by taking the right actions. Think about it. Happiness is at the core of your actions because happiness is not conditional. You don’t become happy by getting a certain object or person in your life. When you take action on learning communication, you empower yourself to be happy.
While developing your communication skills makes you happy, at the same time your happiness increases as you minimize situations like destructive conflict that make you stressed and unhappy. Effective communication skills makes you happier by helping you reduce the frequency and severity of verbal fights, manage anger, express yourself to “get things off your back”, and change other situations to increase positive feelings.
Communication determines your attractiveness. The law of attraction states that you are a living magnet. You attract the people and resources in your life based on your internal self. Get excited because you do have invisible forces that draw and repel people. This is not mystical mumbo-jumbo. If you want to attract a fun, loving, positive, and caring person, you have to become a fun, loving, positive, and caring person.
You can control many factors in personal development to attract people into your life. Some attractive qualities that communication can boost is your confidence, self-esteem, social life, and conversational skills. These are universally attractive qualities.
Without communication, attraction dies. Physical appearance can only get you so far. Communication makes you interesting, connects you with people, builds friendships, and attracts a partner. Pick-up artists use communication to build attraction and get physically intimate with women in hours and sometimes minutes.
Communication fires up intimacy. How do people become open in a relationship? Good communication, of course, because it is the only bridge between a relationship. Communication is the relationship. When communication dies, so does the relationship. It is only through good communication that two persons intimately connect with one another.
Communication increases love given and love received. This benefit of communication ties in with intimacy. Without good communication, love becomes a plant without water. You can love people more than you think by changing the way you talk and developing active listening skills – such skills show respect and love. Giving love is the best way to receive love.
Communication makes you more popular. Though I don’t have a primary goal when teaching you communication to make you the most liked person in school, town, or club, communication does make you more popular. Once you develop good conversational skills with a positive energy, your number of friends is only limited by the time you talk with people.
Improve Your Workplace
Here’s what better communication can do for your workplace – who knows, you might actually begin to enjoy work:
- Increased productivity
- Better feedback that enhances the quality of work
- Less time is wasted resolving interpersonal problems between coworkers
- Ideas flow smoothly through the organization
- Effective problem-solving as teams work well together
- Less absenteeism from increased workplace satisfaction
- And much more
Communication increases your success. John Johanson and Carrie Fried did a 2002 study published in the Teaching of Psychology Journal where they asked graduates what skill contributed the most to their success. The number one answer was interpersonal skills. Drew Appleby in a well known psychology magazine “Eye on Psi Chi” asked 39 employers what job skills they want in job candidates. Interpersonal skills was number one again. World renowned personal business consultant Brian Tracy in Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life says the highest paid intelligence in the United States is interpersonal intelligence. A person with such intelligence understands people’s feelings and desires – and employers pay big bucks for someone with these skills.
Communication makes you relaxed. Stress relates to how we manage ourselves with the world. You can become more relaxed by assertively telling someone “no” if they ask you to do something you don’t want to do. You can relax and no longer worry about the world’s reactions if you respond from a powerful source of control within yourself. (Read this article to learn of effective stress management techniques in communication.)
Communication makes you more satisfied with life. You receive satisfaction when you fulfill a need or desire. To get what you want, either someone gives it to you or you get it yourself. You cannot control what someone gives you (although you can influence them), which means in order to be satisfied you must learn how to get what you want. You do this by improving your persuasion, negotiation, and influence skills. Develop these areas of communication to grow as a person so you fulfill your needs and desires for satisfaction.
Communication gives you self-control. We interact with people everyday and often do things we later regret. Communication skills can increase your self-control to help you manage impulsive behavior. Self-control is beyond not doing actions; it also involves doing the right things.
Communication helps you understand people. This occurs at two levels. Firstly, knowledge of good communication helps you understand human behavior in general. Secondly, it helps you directly understand people you talk with as you explore their emotions and what really matters to them.
Rarely do we understand people to the level they want. Effective communication helps you see someone’s emotions, understand their emotions, and communicate at the level of emotions to powerfully connect the two of you in a way people rarely experience.
Communication helps you understand yourself. Do you know why you respond negatively when someone gives you criticism? Why do you feel occasional surges of anger towards someone you love? How do you overcome fears that stop you from talking with that hot chick or guy?
If you’re like most people, you don’t understand your behavior and this hurts you everyday. Not even I fully understand myself in a way that lets me use my mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual resources to my potential. No one ever will. You will never have the complete answers to these questions, nor do you need them, but many problem behaviors solvable through communication no longer need to block your desired way of living.
This is a small list of the many benefits communication skills can give you. There is an abundance of additional benefits effective communication creates such as managed anger, increased likelihood of a job promotion, better teamwork, and effective leadership skills, but hopefully the list gives you a great idea of the impact this glorious skill can have on your life. Experience the power of communication and let it supercharge your life today by signing up to my free newsletter here.
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Hi Joshua,
Really a powerful skill! When you start reading you just can’t stop, but I need to read this one paragraph at a time. Thanks so much!
Hi Josh,
it’s really wonderful to read your article,I have a question…I often confuse how to dealing with people who have poor Listening Skill??? i’m looking forward to your answer..thanks!!! Have a wonderful day!!