by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
I spend maybe 30 minutes a day reading other people’s blogs and websites. Not just in social skills, but other topics like behavior, business, and being a bad ass. I then recommend these on Twitter and Facebook.
Over the past year I’ve collected some great resources on social skills I’d like to share with you now. Some are from friends of mine, myself, and just others who’ve given good insight into a topic.
From improving your social skills, overcoming anxiety, and starting a conversation, all the way to ongoing conversation, being charismatic, and making people laugh, here are some great resources I recommend you read even if they take you a while to get through … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Thursday, June 17, 2010
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
What’s the first few thoughts that drift through your mind when you hear “introverts”? Some keywords people identify introverts with are loners, anti-social, party poopers, nerds, withdrawn, hermits, shy, unfriendly, and poor with social skills. These words – probably similar to your vision of an extreme introvert – are of course fallacies.
Inaccurate biases make it more strenuous than it already is for an introvert to attend parties, network at events, and socialize anywhere. Introverts must understand the truth about their personality type to maximize their career, build a fun social life, and enjoy happy relationships. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Tuesday, November 3, 2009
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
This is a consumer’s book review of Hamilton Miller’s Elite Social Control, a controversial ebook that teaches ethical mind control techniques for better conversations.
I purchased Miller’s ebook. Upon opening it, I was surprised to see it was only 95 pages. I got a little angry, expecting more, because so many ebooks on persuasion, conversations, and communication- related subjects are small and contain little value. After finishing the ebook, however, I had received more techniques than some 300-page books I’ve read. Do not judge Miller’s book by its size like I did because you will get many mind control techniques to improve your conversations. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Monday, January 26, 2009
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
Sally walks into a room full of high-flying executives. She scans the room with her eyes to see the executives dressed in expensive suits, sipping champagne, and mingling amongst each other. She feels “different” to the executives.
She senses the executives are better than her. She feels below standard because the executives are dressed in suits while she wears a basic top and skirt. She does not know the executives very well and finds it hard to socialize with them, which makes her feel less as a person. Regardless of the superficial reason for her difference that makes her feel less than the executives, the real problem is her inferiority complex. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Monday, December 15, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
We fear being alone; we fear being crowded. We fear the doctor; we fear bad health. We fear the opposite sex; we fear not knowing the opposite sex. We fear making decisions; we fear not making an impact. We fear problems; we fear opportunities. We fear failure; we fear success. We fear job interviews; we fear unemployment. We fear asserting ourselves; we fear not being heard. We fear being pushed; we fear being pulled. We fear breaking up a relationship; we fear staying in the relationship. We fear meeting someone; we fear meeting no one.
Wow! Talk about a crazy list of contrasting fears! The truth about fears is they are crazy and irrational. What fears do you experience that you think are unique? What fears drive you crazy?
You can fear one side of the story and the other at the same time. It is possible to simultaneously fear talking to someone new and not meeting new people because fear hides the truth. I will reveal the truth about fear to you in this article. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Saturday, December 13, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
This is a book review of Susan Jeffers’ Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway: Dynamic Techniques for Turning Fear, Indecision, and Anger Into Power, Action, and Love.
No longer do you have to try a mumbo-jumbo technique, a psychological trick, or the latest dietary secret to “remove” your fears. According to Jeffers, just do the thing you fear. If reading that statement scares you, you are normal!
There’s no wonder this book has sold over 2 million copies. With fear being so common in society, Jeffers has a solution that gets the reader to act in the face of fear. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Saturday, November 22, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
A general theory is floating around that says children today are ruder, more ignorant, and generally less respectful of their elders than they were in pre-electronic device days.
Are children’s listening skills declining as a side effect of the 21st century? More importantly, does a child of yours languish in poor listening and what can you do to improve their listening skills? … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Wednesday, October 22, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
You arrive for a party at a friend’s house and open the front door. It seems all eyes are on you as you walk into the room. Nervous thoughts rush through your mind: “What are they thinking about me?” “Does he think I’m weird?” and “Is that person laughing at my looks?”
I frequently get asked by people how they can overcome such thoughts where they try to read someone’s mind. They want to know how they can eliminate worry over people’s judgments and thoughts in a conversation because it creates social awkwardness.
I use to have the same problem. I worried over people’s judgments of me – in conversations and in general social situations. I stand at 6’9” (206cm) and attract attention wherever I go. Some people go about their day as I walk by, while others gawk in amazement. (I don’t know if they realize it, but I’m tall and not deaf.) Thoughts such as, “Why are they looking at me like that?” destroyed my ability to socially enjoy myself until I discovered a few secrets I will share with you in this article that transformed me into a confident, happy, powerful person. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Update: What are your favorite songs to hype you up for pumping iron? For me, anything by King Tiesto.