You’ve been told by teachers, counselors, relationship experts, self-help experts, or religion, that you should love people – or at least love your family, friends, and others important to you. Though you and I know, it’s not that easy! It’s hard to love someone who hurts you or someone you even hate. At times you would rather punch a family member in the face to knock them out so you can live in peace.

Carl Rogers, a pioneering psychologist in the 1950s on human relations, said love, genuineness, and empathy are three essential pieces to constructive communication. Many studies since then support Rogers’ theory. When we fail to love people, it is hard to communicate in a way that supports ourselves and people. Love is the core of powerful communication. Think about it for a moment and I’m sure your experiences will confirm that love is the heart of effective communication.

It is unfortunate we are not taught how to love people. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to fight. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to defend ourselves. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to get our point across and debate. It is no wonder society is deprived of the core energy – love – that drives humanity.

This article will help you love people more. … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Wednesday, December 3, 200823 Comments

This is a book review of Robert B. Cialdini’s Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, a classic book on subtly getting people to do what you want.

Robert Cialdini is currently Regent’s Professor of Psychology at Arizona State University. His book Influence is a fantastic classic on persuasion as he transforms what most people took as hidden and unknown variables in decision-making into clear principles that you can use to influence people. … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Thursday, November 27, 20083 Comments