by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
Follow your heart, be true to yourself, and everything will work out. And oh, ride your unicorn over the rainbow with butterflies and fairies floating through your hair.
The most common tip you hear to be better with women and men is “just be yourself”. Jump in a forum, blog, or conversation where people discuss the secrets of making friends or attracting the opposite sex and you’ll hear the unanimous piece of advice echoed like ancient wisdom. I’ve received many emails and comments on articles like What Women Want in Men saying, “Forget everything. Just be yourself.” I manage to withhold from clicking reply and sending an angry response.
If being yourself is sound advice, it’s as useless as being told to “be confident”. How do you just be confident? You can’t just do it. Unless the word triggers what you need to do like “express your feelings” or “stand up straight”, being yourself is not helpful advice.
It’s time you understood this cliché and what you can do to be the best full you. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Friday, August 26, 2011
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
This is my review of an ebook by Christian Carter titled Catch Him And Keep Him: A Woman’s Guide To Finding Mr. Right… And Keeping Him Hooked For Good!. It’s the second edition of a successful guide helping women around the world go from loneliness or frustration to a pleasurable relationship with a quality man.
Christian Carter begins Catch Him and Keep Him with two apparently simple questions: what is a man and how does a man differ from you as a woman? … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Monday, January 18, 2010
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
*note: For a full guide to completely get over your break up and reset your relationship with the person you love, I highly recommend guys read and get this while girls read and get this.
Our relationships often determine the sweetness of our lives. Just like the great fruit a lemon can be when it compliments other ingredients even when it might not be great with others, so is our relationships filled with the greats, the inevitable negatives, and despised break up.
The lessons I share in this article will not be easy to accept. If you are after tips like “go see a movie with friends” to avoid the dark, deep secrets of working through emotional pain, go read the hundreds of crap articles about this topic over the Internet. The lessons in this article are hardcore. I will show you true mental and emotional strategies to get over your ex so you are ready for independent happiness. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Sunday, December 14, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
Whether the person you want to talk to over the phone is a potential partner, client, or friend, and you’ve just met the person or have known them your entire life, there are a series of effective phone skills you can use to increase love and liking to build any relationship. Like any communication skill, there are tips you can follow over the phone to speed up the relationship-building process.
The telephone is a different medium to traditional face-to-face communication. What does this mean to you? Rules change and tips can be adapted to help you build your relationship. What does not change is the fundamental human psychology of the two individuals at either end of the phone. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Saturday, December 6, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
You’ve been told by teachers, counselors, relationship experts, self-help experts, or religion, that you should love people – or at least love your family, friends, and others important to you. Though you and I know, it’s not that easy! It’s hard to love someone who hurts you or someone you even hate. At times you would rather punch a family member in the face to knock them out so you can live in peace.
Carl Rogers, a pioneering psychologist in the 1950s on human relations, said love, genuineness, and empathy are three essential pieces to constructive communication. Many studies since then support Rogers’ theory. When we fail to love people, it is hard to communicate in a way that supports ourselves and people. Love is the core of powerful communication. Think about it for a moment and I’m sure your experiences will confirm that love is the heart of effective communication.
It is unfortunate we are not taught how to love people. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to fight. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to defend ourselves. Instead of learning how to love, we learn to get our point across and debate. It is no wonder society is deprived of the core energy – love – that drives humanity.
This article will help you love people more. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Wednesday, December 3, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
I use to suffer from severe passive behavior and communication. I would not say what I wanted, escape confrontation because it was uncomfortable, dodge responsibility because I could be blamed, and generally sidestepped who I truly was as a person. I compromised my character. People interacted with a mask of behavior that protected my vulnerable self.
Passiveness, otherwise known as submissiveness, is the opposite to aggression. Passiveness literally means detachment and acceptance. It is acted upon rather than acts on something. Passive communication involves “keeping under the radar”, “not sticking up for yourself”, saying yes when you really want to say no, and overly “selfless behaviors”. While it is different to being shy or quiet, shy or quiet individuals are often passive.
Amongst my reasons for passive behavior, is the benefits of passive behavior and communication, and why it is such a severe problem in families, the workplace, and human interactions. I want to share with you the deep reasons behind why people avoid “sticking up for themselves” and many other passive behaviors in this article. I believe once you understand this behavior, a powerful world is revealed before your eyes that would otherwise have remained hidden. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Friday, November 21, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
Here’s the most common parenting question I get asked, which is a major parenting misconception: Is there one correct way to raise a child? The answer is there is no one right way to raise a child. Like buying a car, becoming friends with your neighbors, or hanging out your clothes to dry, there is no single way to raise a healthy-minded, love-filled, successful child.
Having said that, there are four parenting styles you need to be aware of when raising a child, which explain the best parenting styles for a child. How you use a parenting style is up to your judgment. No single correct way to use the styles exists because too many variables in parenting exist.
The four parenting styles based on research in parenting are: … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Sunday, October 5, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
What if I told you there was a secret to you being happy, attractive, popular, successful, understanding, in control, loving, and satisfied? What if you could get these benefits – plus more – by learning a single skill? It sounds almost too good to be true.
The skill that gives you these benefits is effective communication. Communication has too many benefits to list because the skill enhances many areas of one’s life. Any interaction with people or lack of it can improve with communication.
Rudyard Kipling said, “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” Kipling’s quote fails to fully describe communication because it is far more than words – it also incorporates nonverbal channels of communication. Imagine the powerful benefits of communication now.
Here are a list of communication benefits that tell you the what, why, and how this amazing skill will change your life: … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Friday, October 3, 2008
Update: What Christmas present did you get for yourself? You can tell me ;-) None for me this year.