Orders, better ways of doing things, and simple suggestions – these are solutions you likely send to people, which kills your relationship with them. A solution may appear harmless on the surface, yet in this article I’ll dig deep into why your solutions are not only ineffective at changing people, but also killing the emotional lives of people you touch.

“Hang out the washing”, “Stop moping around and cheer up”, “Fix what you broke”, “You need to improve your skills with customers”, “You need to get a new attitude”, “Obey your mother and father”. There are four reasons why such statements kill your relationships. … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Tuesday, January 20, 200914 Comments

When you think of delegation and getting other people to do tasks you would normally do – without you having to watch people with a hawk-eye – do you only think of organizational leadership? Book after book has been written on delegation in business. The ability to delegate, however, is a powerful skill any person should learn for their personal, career, and family success.

Delegation transfers the decision-making process to someone else. It is simply the transference of responsibility to another person. It allows you to get more done in less time than if you tried to do the activity yourself. You must learn this skill because time disallows you to do what you want done.

This article is beyond business to help you empower anybody to make decisions on their own while not subjecting them, or anyone else, to emotional pain. You will learn how to avoid turning yourself into a cantankerous, controlling individual while still getting things done. … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Saturday, December 13, 20084 Comments