It’s a paradox that what got you reading this article is maintaining your problem. The word “cure” is what creates your social anxiety disorder. I cringe at using the word in the title of this article, but it displays a breakthrough point modern therapists have discovered: attempts to remove anxiety cause it to persist.

You’ve suffered from social anxiety disorder and tried to treat it for years. The problem and infatuation with removing anxiety go hand-in-hand. What you resist persists sometimes making problem-solving ineffective.

From a young age we’re tricked to believe in emotional regulation. We believe adults are mature, stable, and happy because of emotional control. “Stop crying and being a baby.” “Don’t be angry.” And of course my dreaded, “Don’t be a scaredy cat.” Emotional regulation has lead to your search here today as you try discover the cure of your social anxiety.

What are the affects of battling your anxiety? What’s the secret to better socialize and start living a meaningful life? … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Wednesday, April 13, 20118 Comments

Sally walks into a room full of high-flying executives. She scans the room with her eyes to see the executives dressed in expensive suits, sipping champagne, and mingling amongst each other. She feels “different” to the executives.

She senses the executives are better than her. She feels below standard because the executives are dressed in suits while she wears a basic top and skirt. She does not know the executives very well and finds it hard to socialize with them, which makes her feel less as a person. Regardless of the superficial reason for her difference that makes her feel less than the executives, the real problem is her inferiority complex. … Click to continue reading →

Posted on Monday, December 15, 200833 Comments