by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
Drugs, alcohol, energy vampires, greedy clients, persistent salespersons, and charity seekers. These are few of the many objects and people sucking your time, money, energy, focus, and life. For many reasons, however, you give in to them as you donate money, help another hour, work overtime, remain at a venue, or answer a survey.
This is not just an article to help you be assertive – it is a complete guide about the psychology of saying no. Too many people struggle to decline an offer, say they won’t help out, or reject a dangerous substance with confidence. Forces like guilt, peer pressure, and an inability to assert oneself makes people say yes, which puts them in situations they later regret. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Wednesday, May 20, 2009
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
This is a book review of Susan Scott’s Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a Time.
If you’ve ever felt the need to have an important conversation, but couldn’t bring yourself to it, this book is for you. Author Susan Scott details the exact methods to have conversations we know will change our life and other people’s life, but we procrastinate having usually because of fear. It’s important to overcome whatever barriers we face in communication because a conversation is not about the relationship – it is the relationship. … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Monday, November 24, 2008
by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"
It’s painful having to put up with someone who abuses you. Abuse is made more difficult to handle when the person, such as a boss or supervisor, has authoritative power over you. Your boss can trick you into procrastination and anger where your wellbeing is undermined from fear of repercussions if you address the issue.
The law does little to protect victims of workplace conflict. Nearly all laws do not take into account verbal conflict, but if the verbal and other emotional abuse approaches physical abuse, the issue can become a legal concern. The typical employee who faces a difficult manager, however, needs to handle the workplace bully through a series of skills one can get in this article.
Most people who lack the communication skills to deal with a bad boss either: … Click to continue reading →
Posted on Sunday, October 19, 2008
Update: What Christmas present did you get for yourself? You can tell me ;-) None for me this year.