Comments on: 4 Reasons Advice and Other Solutions Kill Relationships

By: How to Brainwash People: Techniques to Put an Idea into Someone's Mind

How to Brainwash People: Techniques to Put an Idea into Someone's Mind — Sat, 08 Jun 2013 06:59:20 +0000

[…] method can also be used to give advice. If you have a friend who never takes your advice, you may be telling him or her what to do. Rather than giving instructions, ask leading questions […]

By: The Complete Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Process

The Complete Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Process — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 03:25:02 +0000

[…] He has not given Jessica the intimacy she wants. She has pointed out the problem and tried to provide a solution, but like everybody, she has repeatedly used the communication barriers, which block open […]

By: How to Be Charming to Men and Women

How to Be Charming to Men and Women — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 11:59:40 +0000

[…] Advice is 1 of 12 communication killers I give in my Communication Secrets of Powerful People program. You probably think you’re helping people with advice, but there’s four reasons solutions hurt relationships. […]

By: Why Problem Solving Doesn’t Solve the Problem and the Real Solution to Permanent Change

Tue, 30 Jun 2009 08:10:30 +0000

[…] and they may temporarily change to reduce the tension – but they quickly revert to old patterns. Sending people solutions makes them resist to what you try to […]

By: Top 15 Dumb Mistakes People Make in Relationships

Top 15 Dumb Mistakes People Make in Relationships — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 09:00:18 +0000

[…] is counterintuitive that solutions kill relationships. After all, don’t solutions cure problems? More often than not in relationships, solutions […]

By: Principles and Tips to Deal with Difficult People

Principles and Tips to Deal with Difficult People — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 02:19:59 +0000

[…] and start…” and “Why don’t you…” Telling people what to do does not work. Solutions are the problem. The more you push solutions on people, the more they pull away from you and your suggestion. Real […]

By: virgeodle

virgeodle — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 10:27:47 +0000

everybody is thankful of your advice.i was thinking of a way to respond differently from others.i cant help it but say, MAN, you are a blessing to me.

By: Inferiority Complex and the Self-Image

Inferiority Complex and the Self-Image — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:58:05 +0000

[…] I did some brief browsing on the web to see what information was available on the inferiority complex, and most of the advice offered is harmful. “Experts” were telling people “things will get better”, “be more positive”, or “it’s not so bad”. If you have the inferiority complex and someone says similar things to you, you will understand the massive frustration caused from the misunderstanding when someone gives you such poor advice. […]

By: Getting Over a Relationship Break Up

Getting Over a Relationship Break Up — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 04:59:44 +0000

[…] I use in my communication secrets program to describe a person’s inclination to judge and project solutions). By letting them know you want them to only listen, they will be more willing to “absorb” the […]

By: Steven

Steven — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 05:33:38 +0000

Thank you so much for this very good knowledge,you very skillful.